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Normal Crying And How to Soothe The Baby

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Ever feel like your infant is crying way too much? There is a term now called The Period of PURPLE Crying.

The Period of PURPLE Crying is a new way to help parents understand this time in their baby’s life, which is a normal part of every infant’s development. It is confusing and concerning to be told your baby “has colic” because it sounds like it is an illness or a condition that is abnormal. When the baby is given medication to treat symptoms of colic, it reinforces the idea that there is something wrong with the baby, when in fact, the baby is going through a very normal developmental phase. That is why we prefer to refer to this time as the Period of PURPLE Crying. This is not because the baby turns purple while crying. The acronym is a meaningful and memorable way to describe what parents and their babies are going through.

The Period of PURPLE Crying begins at about 2 weeks of age and continues until about 3-4 months of age. There are other common characteristics of this phase, or period, which are better described by the acronym PURPLE. All babies go through this period. It is during this time that some babies can cry a lot and some far less, but they all go through it.

The Period of Purple Crying: 

Peak of crying: your baby may cry more each week, the most in month 2, then less in months 3-5.

Unexpected: crying can come and go and you don’t know why.

Resists soothing: your baby may not stop crying no matter what you try.

Pain-like face: a crying baby may look like they are in pain, even when they are not

Long lasting: crying can last as much as 5 hours a day or more.

Evening: your baby may cry more in the late afternoon and evening

 

Here are the 5 S’s for soothing a crying child

 

  • Swaddling – Tight swaddling provides the continuous touching and support the fetus experienced while still in Mom’s womb.
  • Side/stomach position – You place your baby, while holding her, either on her left side to assist in digestion, or on her stomach to provide reassuring support. Once your baby is happily asleep, you can safely put her in her crib, on her back.
  • Shushing Sounds – These sounds imitate the continual whooshing sound made by the blood flowing through arteries near the womb. This white noise can be in the form of a vacuum cleaner, a hair dryer, a fan and so on. The good news is that you can easily save the motors on your household appliances and get a white noise CD which can be played over and over again with no worries.
  • Swinging – Newborns are used to the swinging motions that were present when they were still in Mom’s womb. Every step mom took, every movement caused a swinging motion for your baby. After your baby is born, this calming motion, which was so comforting and familiar, is abruptly taken away. Your baby misses the motion and has a difficult time getting used to it not being there. “It’s disorienting and unnatural,” says Karp. Rocking, car rides, and other swinging movements all can help.
  • Sucking – “Sucking has its effects deep within the nervous system,” notes Karp, “and triggers the calming reflex and releases natural chemicals within the brain.” This “S” can be accomplished with bottle, breast, pacifier or even a finger.

 

Information came from :

http://www.purplecrying.info/what-is-the-period-of-purple-crying.php

http://www.colichelp.com/shop/happiestbabyontheblock.html

 

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Stranger Danger

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Being a Nursery Coordinator at a church, I have dealt with alot of crying. I have noticed in the last month a lot more infants have been coming into the classrooms crying after they have been dropped off. If your child cries when you drop them off to the volunteers at your church or maybe at daycare, you are not alone. Separation Anxiety if very common in children.I know I have talked about this topic before but I thought i would write about this again. 🙂

If your child is dealing with the whole ‘Stranger Danger’,  you might get paged out of service at your church. Don’t feel bad. My daughter was paged when she will little almost every weekend at church. I felt bad for the volunteers in the nursery since when I handed over my daughter to the volunteer the crying and the tears began. I felt like just keeping her with my husband and I in service . Well I didn’t, we keep bringing her to her room and you know what? After awhile we stopped getting paged out of service to pick her up. Please don’t give up on brining your children to daycare or into the nursery at church. They will get use to it and with each time it should get better and better.

I have noticed that it starts at about the 6-9 months when the separation anxiety starts. I know that its different for each child. I read in an article that your baby begins to distinguish one person from another and starts forming strong emotional attachments to his parents and caregivers. He’s also coming to understand the concept of object permanence: When his mother leaves the room, he remembers that she left and wonders when she’ll return. When you add these two developmental advances together, you’ve got the perfect equation for separation anxiety.

Tips I found at :

http://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/toddler/Pages/Soothing-Your-Childs-Separation-Anxiety.aspx

How to Survive Separation Anxiety

  • Create quick good-bye rituals. Even if you have to do major-league- baseball–style hand movements, give triple kisses at the cubby, or provide a special blanket or toy as you leave, keep the good-bye short and sweet. If you linger, the transition time does too. So will the anxiety.
  • Be consistent. Try to do the same drop-off with the same ritual at the same time each day you separate to avoid unexpected factors whenever you can. A routine can diminish the heartache and will allow your child to simultaneously build trust in her independence and in you.
  • Attention: When separating, give your child full attention, be loving, and provide affection. Then say good-bye quickly despite her antics or cries for you to stay.
  • Keep your promise. You’ll build trust and independence as your child becomes confident in her ability to be without you when you stick to your promise of return. The biggest mistake I ever made in this regard was returning to class to “visit” my son about an hour after a terrible transition. I was missing him, and although the return was well intended, I not only extended the separation anxiety, we started all over again in the process. When I left the second time (and subsequent days) it was near nuclear.
  • Be specific, child style. When you discuss your return, provide specifics that your child understands. If you know you’ll be back by 3:00 pm, tell it to your child on his terms; for example, say, “I’ll be back after nap time and before afternoon snack.” Define time he can understand. Talk about your return from a business trip in terms of “sleeps.” Instead of saying, “I’ll be home in 3 days,” say, “I’ll be home after 3 sleeps.”
  • Practice being apart. Ship the children off to grandma’s home, schedule playdates, allow friends and family to provide child care for you (even for an hour) on the weekend. Before starting child care or preschool, practice going to school and your good-bye ritual before you even have to part ways. Give your child a chance to prepare, experience, and thrive in your absence!

Facts about Separation Anxiety

  • Infants: Separation anxiety develops after a child gains an understanding of object permanence. Once your infant realizes you’re really gone (when you are), it may leave him unsettled. Although some babies display object permanence and separation anxiety as early as 4 to 5 months of age, most develop more robust separation anxiety at around 9 months. The leave- taking can be worse if your infant is hungry, tired, or not feeling well. Keep transitions short and routine if it’s a tough day.
  • Toddlers: Many toddlers skip separation anxiety in infancy and start demonstrating challenges at 15 or 18 months of age. Separations are more difficult when children are hungry, tired, or sick—which is most of toddlerhood! As children develop independence during toddlerhood, they may become even more aware of separations. Their behaviors at separations will be loud, tearful, and difficult to stop.
  • Preschoolers: By the time children are 3 years of age, most clearly understand the effect their anxiety or pleas at separation have on us. It doesn’t mean they aren’t stressed, but they certainly are vying for a change. Be consistent; don’t return to the room based on a child’s plea, and certainly don’t cancel plans based on separation anxiety. Your ongoing consistency, explanations, and diligence to return when you say you will are tantamount.

Never feel bad when dropping your child off when they are dealing with separation problems. You are not alone and they will outgrow it!

 

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Having Prayer In Your Life

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Just this week my daughters went with my husband to wrestling practice where he is a coach. I was relaxing at home alone where it was nice and quiet. While enjoying the quiet I got a phone call from my husband where he told me I needed to rush to the ER since our oldest daughter got hurt while playing. While my husband was running the practice, the girls were playing and my oldest injured her mouth. She knocked out one of her teeth and cut open the inside of her mouth really bad. At the time she was hurt, she was scared and in pain and crying. After we got home from the hospital we were able to sit down as a family and lay hands on her and prayed over her.  The next day my daughters pain was almost gone and we saw the dentist and she said that Evelyn should be in pain but she wasn’t.  Evelyn told her dentist it was because God was answering the prayers we have been praying over her as a family. We started at a very young age with our children to pray with us even if they can’t even talk yet.  Its a great way to get them in the habit of praying. My girls are 6 & 7 and they love to pray for each other. It melts my heart to hear the girls praying out loud.

Make sure you are regularly praying with them or having them see you pray on a regular basis so you are setting an example for them. Prayer is simply being with God and having a conversation. Children need to know early in their lives that they can talk to God just like they talk to Mommy, Daddy, or a best friend. They need to understand that God is there and attentive to what they have to say. Try to include your child in prayer or make sure they see you praying a few times a week. It doesn’t have to be a long prayer.

When they get older and can remember phrases, these websites have some great prayers you can teach your children.

http://christianity.about.com/od/prayersforspecificneeds/qt/bedtimeprayers.htm

http://christianity.about.com/od/prayersforspecificneeds/qt/morningprayers.htm

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Engaging in the Word with your little ones

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Did you know that you can have Bible time with your infant? Introducing the Bible to a baby is like planning a seed. Exposing very young children to the Bible helps ensure they soak it up in a way that will positively impact their lives as they grow.

I am a Nursery Coordinator for a church. My boss just this week encouraged us in our homes to spend more time with our families to be in the Word. It could be prayer time where you and your spouse and children take the time to pray out loud. You could do family devotions. I actually went out that same day and got a dinner time devotional for our family to do. I found a great article that helps  with ideas of how to introduce the Bible to infants. I found the ideas out of the Children’s Ministry Magazine. I hope that some of the ideas will encourage you so spend time in the Word with the your little ones.

Introducing the Bible: By the time children turn 2, they’re capable of understanding that the Bible is a special book with special words from God. Make sure to have age appropriate Bibles, for infants you could use a Baby First Bible. Both of my girls who are in elementary age we use The Jesus Storybook Bible.

Use tactile techniques: Children learn best when they can touch, see, move and discover. You can show them how to turn the pages and you could hug the Bible. You can point to a picture in the Bible and talk about it and have them touch the picture as well. Try to say the work “Bible” a lot and encourage them to try and say that when they get to the age of copying words you say.

You could try to make this a weekly event or even a daily event.

Its never to early to start reading and teaching Gods word to a child. You can start at any age.

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Helping you not pull your hair out

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So winter can be a hard time for me, I swear I am on the verge of pulling my hair out at times and I KNOW for a fact I am getting white hairs on my head ( I am only 28). I can suffer from winter blues and sometimes have to go on anti-depressants or tan to get vitamins D to help boost my moods. I have 2 children, both girls who are 7 and 6 right now. During the winter they are cooped up inside since half the time its too cold to play outside, we live in Michigan. I can only let my girls watch so much TV and the time they get along playing with each other nicely doesn’t last very long.  I am trying to find more crafts and activities to do while we are stuck inside this winter. I know when you have small children you tend to keep them inside more during this season. I have found some fun activities you can do with your little ones while you are in the house to help keep you sane if you are sick of being stuck inside and not a fan of the cold weather. These are found on the Children’s Ministry Magazine website.

 

  • Hit the Floor-Set up an obstacle course of
    pillows and cardboard boxes for babies to maneuver over and
    through.
  • Monkey See-And of course, monkey do. Older
    babies enjoy mimicking adults. Smack your lips, clap your hands, or
    stick out your tongue. Baby will follow suit.
  • Let’s Talk About It-Babies babble incessantly
    somewhere around eight to 12 months. Play pointing and naming games
    to help build baby’s vocabulary. “This is a Bible. Can you say
    Bible?”
  • Catch-When baby is able to sit up, roll a soft
    ball to the child. Baby may try to roll the ball back, but you’ll
    have to work at catching it. Roll the ball away from baby, and let
    him chase it.
  • Body Parts-Show baby a doll. Have the baby
    touch the doll’s toes, eyes, fingers, hair, mouth, and ears.
    Reinforce that God made each of these body parts on baby.
  • Now You See It-Once babies figure out that
    hidden things don’t just disappear (around six to eight months),
    they enjoy Hide-and-Seek games with objects. Partially hide a toy
    and let the baby uncover it.
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Children’s 5 Senses

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I found a great article in the Children Ministry Magazine I would like to share with you. I know most of us know the 5 senses we have, hearing, sight, smell, taste, and touch. Taste is my favorite, I love food! 🙂  Little ones learn when we stimulate their 5 senses. We can use these questions to make sure we are tapping sensory experiences each week with our children.

Hearing What sounds and words do children hear? Whisper “You’re special to God” or play Christian music.

Sight What do children see that teaches them about God? Identify nature items in pictures and say, “Thank you, God for [item].”

Smell What good scents do children experience? Have children smell a sliced orange or a cinnamon stick. Then touch your nose and say, “God, gave us a nose for smelling.”

Taste What flavors do children taste? When kids taste snacks, say: “God made your mouth for tasting.” Talk about the flavors.

Touch How does touch tell kids about God? Give hugs and say, ” Jesus love you.” Have kids touch fleece when you talk about lambs or feel other textures for related items in the Bible.

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Things to do with your baby in the new year

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2015 is just around the corner. A lot of people will be making new years resolutions. This will be the first year will be the first year that it wont be to lose weight. Every year I make that my goal and I always fail. 2015 will be the year that I am going to try to do more fun things with my children.

 

Here are some ideas of what to do with your child and different stages of their first 2 years.

2 months: Make a mobile
“Very young babies are attracted to contrasting colors,” says Gaby Merediz, an artist, writer and mother of two young boys. “So draw some simple shapes in black marker on white paper and hang them above your baby’s crib or on a spot on the wall near your baby’s line of sight.”

At birth, baby’s vision is limited, so she’ll have a hard time focusing on anything more than a few inches away from her face. Providing her with interesting objects in her line of sight encourages her to focus her eyes and strengthens her vision. Of course, you are her very favorite “interesting object,” so make sure she gets plenty of face time with you too!

6 months: Learn sign language
Yes, your baby can learn sign language this young! In fact, it’s an ideal time to start. Parents who have used American Sign Language with their babies say that babies as young as six months can begin to understand simple signs (although baby may not begin to sign back until she’s eight months or older).

“Weave signs into everyday activities and eventually your child will be using signs, too,” says Moreno, who used sign language with her infant daughter. “Using sign language with your baby helps children to think and express themselves symbolically, long before they can talk. We were able to teach our daughter over 350 American Sign Language signs by the time she was 17 months old. Once, when she was 12 months old, she asked me if the truck that had pulled up next to our car was an airplane.”

Not sure where to start? Many communities offer baby sign language classes. Or look for a baby sign language book or video at your local library or online.

13 months: Make marbleized gift wrap
Yes, you’ve made it to the age where you and baby (correction: toddler) can do crafts together. All you need is some tempera paint, plastic wrap and white paper. (Butcher paper works particularly well.) Cover your work surface and tape the white paper in place. Help your little one dribble some paint onto the paper. Use several colors and let the colors touch. Then, lay a piece of plastic wrap directly on top of the paint, covering the paint and paper. Show your child how to move his hands over the paper to create designs in the paint; he’ll probably get the hang of it pretty quickly!

When he’s done, carefully lift off the plastic wrap and throw it away. Let the paint-and-paper dry; the finished product makes great gift wrap. Or you can frame your baby’s works of art.

“My one-year-old loves making marbleized paper,” says Kate Freeman of Bright Horizons Family Solutions, a child care company. Kids love the tactile experience, and working with various colors helps them learn and ID colors (and even experiment with color mixing).

 

For  more of the activities, follow this link:

Things to do with your baby